Had enough? Fed up? Told you aren’t smart enough or good enough? Time to get your power back! For too long women have given power to men because they just “have to have” a guy and then they become people pleasers or doormats or pregnant. Whatever it takes, they do it. And in the process, they don’t even realize they are losing all that makes a woman attractive. That magic is gone when you throw yourself at a guy or do whatever he asks.
If you take yourself out of the game everyone else is playing you will get noticed. You want to stand out from the crowd. Don’t run after a guy, ever. Don’t tell him you love him first or drop plans for him. Do not jump through hoops. Make yourself aloof and let him see you as someone he has to chase after. If you cook for him and clean for him and pick up his dirty laundry, guess who he is reminded of? Who does he see? His mother! That’s the last thing you want..there is no romance in recreating Mom.
If you want him to respect you, don’t talk just to fill the space, then, when you do speak it will be heard. You want to present a persona that is cool, calm and collected. That doesn’t mean you can’t ever be enthusiastic. When he brings you gifts, that’s the time. When he gets a promotion, that’s the time. But chatty Cathy soon fades into the woodwork. Remember that friendship is intriguing and calming and ultimately what a guy wants. He wants you to be his friend because that’s easy and natural and he feels comfortable. And sexy. Friendship can be very, very intimate and sexy.
You don’t need a relationship. You may want one, but you never need it. Needy women look desperate and they don’t have a life. Women who look like they love life find themselves in the midst of a lot of activities and they make friends. And friends turn into lovers.
You aren’t losing your femininity here, you are increasing it with an air of confidence and mystery. When you feel good about yourself and have an optimistic outlook you become a magnet. Let him do things for you. If you try too hard, and do too much, he comes to expect it. Let him ask you out, take you out. You can do a home cooked meal later on. Not in the beginning. No need to sew his button back on. Remember you are not Mom. Mom is not sexy, you are.
Take back all the stereotyping and refuse to be a doormat. Your attraction comes because he has to pursue you. Forget all the silly tricks that make women look needy. And those dumb blondes? Hey….they are very smart – ’cause they get what they want.
There’s a lot of fun one can have learning to be the woman who gets what she wants without losing her power.
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