Archive for Sexuality
Sex Gets Better With Age
After learning about my occupation, a very cool lady in her mid-70s did not bat an eyelash. Instead she gave me a girl's conspiratorial wink and giggled, "After the kids left home, my husband and I had our second honeymoon. It was the best time in our 52 years together."
I adore hearing stories like that. In fact, I love to watch older couples walking down the street hand-in-hand, heads together, acting as if they were brand new lovers. That reflection of a deep love is the holy grail Read more [...]
Does Sex Addiction Really Exist?
There are two camps when it comes to sex addiction: those who believe it is a real affliction; and those who don't.
I'm in the "don't" camp. Sexual addiction is, in my opinion, an easy and convenient label for a very complicated problem. As it stands, there is a lack of empirical evidence and scientific agreement on whether such a condition exists.
You see, the trick to what makes up a sex addiction is defining what are 'normal' sexual pursuits. An exercise in subjectivity as every Read more [...]
Help! My Ex Wants to Be Sex Buddies
Question: My ex has suddenly reappeared in my life and wants to be sex buddies. I'm really tempted.
Many women can have a one night stand or a sex buddy without any emotional complications. However, no-strings-attached-sex can be more tricky when it comes to an ex.
First, it's normal to want to have sex with someone you might have spent a lot of time and heartache trying to get over. They are familiar and so there isn't the drama or awkwardness that can precede a new sex partner.
That Read more [...]
Help! – I’ve Never Had a Vaginal Orgasm
Question: I've never had an orgasm during intercourse. Is there something wrong with me?
Absolutely not!
Unfortunately many women get their sex education from romance novels or the media and assume that every woman will: "Immediately explode with pleasure as his rock hard python enters her."
Truth is, contrary to pop-culture belief, not all women can have a vaginal and g-spot orgasm. This is due to her genetics and not because she's uptight and/ or doing something wrong during Read more [...]
Should you have Sex with An Ex?
There you are sitting alone on a Saturday nite, eating stale Doritos and watching old re-runs of Seinfeld you have already seen seven times. It would not be so bad except you have an itch, a sexual itch that is, in need of scratching.
You start flipping through your brain's Rolodex and realize other than the slightly creepy person in accounting who flirts with you, there are no real prospects on the horizon. Big time Bridget Jones' loser feelings start seeping into your every pore. Read more [...]
Help! I Want to Act Out a Fantasy
Question: I want to act out a naughty fantasy with my guy, how do I start/bring it up?
Fantasies are an easy way to add incredible zest to any sexual encounter.
Some fantasies are better left in your imagination as they are too intricate to act out. Many men often fantasize about a threesome and are inevitably disappointed when it doesn't turn out like their well choreographed daydream.
However, if your fantasy is about seducing the FedEx guy when he delivers a 'package' to your Read more [...]
Ten Signs You Need a Sex Makeover
Too many married women lose interest in sex because they keep having single-woman sex. It makes sense then that married women must learn to have married-woman sex.
Well of course the burning question on everybody's mind is, "What the heck is married-woman sex and how do I have it?"
Unfortunately, a key point always gets missed. Women must first work through any negative feelings she has towards sex before she can move forward with married-woman sex. The operative word here is "work", Read more [...]
Kegels – Two Minutes a Day to Better Sex
Don't bother with the many fine how-to books on having a more fulfilling orgasm. The quick, easy and zero-cost answer to a more satisfying and intense orgasm is... drum roll please... Kegels. They are the best two minutes a day you could ever spend on the road to better sex.
Before there is any eye rolling, please hear me out. When I speak to people about doing Kegels, many women nod their heads sagely and explain they have already done them. Problem is they only ever tried it once Read more [...]